Mom is a word that is synonymous with or rather could be a substitute of unconditional love. But typically, the way Moms behave (and i am not saying i could be any different) is as if they own their child. True, they are responsible for their child and the buck, as they say, stops at them. But, they can't be behaving as if they own them. This ultimately translates into 'nagging.
Nagging could be for anything, for the so called inconsequential things in life like -"Son, your milk is getting cold, come fast." to of course the quintessential favorite of all Moms - "Why don't you keep your room clean?!!"
But even little children need space. And Moms i feel should let go, to a certain extent.
I don't really know or cannot tell if i am party to this not-so-cool habit of nagging, but as my son is now a young adult, i consciously give him space, or at least i try to. If his milk goes cold, he knows he can heat it up in the microwave; if he is hungry, he can rustle up a quick snack, or if he feels sleepy during prep month, he can adjust his study schedule to not lose out on valuable study time.
It's best to set rules of the house in advance. This way the children know that certain things are non negotiable. Like wearing a helmet. My son tried arguing with me once or twice as how the helmet is a hindrance and i should allow him just once not to wear it, but i stood firm and told him that that is a non negotiable in our house.
If he is staying out for lunch or dinner, he should inform me well in advance. Food waste is a strict no no.
I am glad and proud that my son has been following these things without fail. And i am hoping he doesn't feel nagged by me.
Nagging doesn't solve anything. Only adds to the rebellion, i feel.
@Moms, what do you all feel?
Nagging could be for anything, for the so called inconsequential things in life like -"Son, your milk is getting cold, come fast." to of course the quintessential favorite of all Moms - "Why don't you keep your room clean?!!"
But even little children need space. And Moms i feel should let go, to a certain extent.
I don't really know or cannot tell if i am party to this not-so-cool habit of nagging, but as my son is now a young adult, i consciously give him space, or at least i try to. If his milk goes cold, he knows he can heat it up in the microwave; if he is hungry, he can rustle up a quick snack, or if he feels sleepy during prep month, he can adjust his study schedule to not lose out on valuable study time.
It's best to set rules of the house in advance. This way the children know that certain things are non negotiable. Like wearing a helmet. My son tried arguing with me once or twice as how the helmet is a hindrance and i should allow him just once not to wear it, but i stood firm and told him that that is a non negotiable in our house.
I am glad and proud that my son has been following these things without fail. And i am hoping he doesn't feel nagged by me.
Nagging doesn't solve anything. Only adds to the rebellion, i feel.
@Moms, what do you all feel?
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